We talk about sex alot. When I truly think about it, I've talked about most parts of sex my entire life. We talk about foreplay—the lingering look in the eyes, the anticipation, the flirting, the rush of excitement and touch before the act. We talk about the actual act — the positions, the pace, the dirty talk, etc., We constantly talk (and I've been constantly asked) about introducing new things...
It took me a long time, but I've finally come to the blunt realization that we are going to be inside for a very long time. For the moment, I'm okay with that. Now that I've begun to process this, one of the things that has kept me sane is making my home someplace I actually want to be. Don't get me wrong, I love being home — when it's...
Rona has quickly changed alot in our lives in a matter of two* months. The way we love each other (and ourselves), the way we date, the way we communicate and express ourselves is completely different now. Whether you're in a relationship, dating or talking to someone, or single and (not) looking, the way we have sex and express wanting it has completely switched up. Since the start column, I've...
Play Ari Lennox's "New Apartment" while you read! Do you remember the classic Carrie Bradshaw line: “In New York, you're always looking for a job, apartment or a boyfriend.” Well, I've been on the hunt for all three since graduating college in 2014. Finding an apartment is hard. But, finding an apartment in New York is an entirely different ballgame. From years of applying to the housing lottery to searching the pages...
I'm going to start this week's column being completely honest. I'll try most things twice for the sake of curiosity and pleasure, but me and riding do not get along. Maybe, I don't have Megan Thee Stallion knees. Or maybe, I'm overly concerned about how my body looks on top. Are my titties, tittying? Does my stomach look flat? Are my knees making the "Grindin'" beat? Somewhere between being self-conscious...
The time has officially come to talk about the act of so many names— head, brain, dome, neck, knob goblin, spit shine, etc. — professionally known as fellatio. My first introduction to head came from the lyrics of Lil Kim, Trina, and of course Shawnna. The late night public access show, Robin Byrd, gave me the visuals while Sex and the City broke down what I thought was "head reality."...
It's been a minute since I've written much of anything on my blog, but let's talk about the birth of this column. "The Black Carrie Bradshaw" is something I've been called quite a few times since the start of my podcast. I've always wanted a column, I mean, I did go to school for journalism. But, I never thought I'd have a sex column until recently. Despite being someone, who...
My style, much like my size, has changed alot over the years. But, one thing that remains the same is my love for GOOD vintage pieces. I started thrifting during my broke era —better known as college. It started as a quick and cheap way to find an outfit for the weekend or a party under $20, but quickly grew into one of my favorite hobbies. I've found everything from...
What happens to the writer who doesn’t write? The girl, with the words, who suddenly has none? The girl whose pen has suddenly ran out of ink? I write this in the notes section of my phone as the blank page of my WordPress taunts me. It asks "Where I’ve been, where my secrets and stories are?" The answer is simple: they’re stuck. They've been stuck in the dark corners...
From growing up a Catholic school kid convinced that masturbation was unnatural to being stifled and shamed for my curiosity during my first relationship, sex toys and I have had a very long journey. My very first toy — a cheap clit vibrator— came from Target and cost no more than $10. I had never felt more "grown" than that moment. I was excited to use it, but my then...
People do not pass. Feelings do not change. But, time keeps going. Over the past three months, I've learned alot about emotions. While I thought being Pisces put me at an advantage of knowing my feelings, I've learned I don't know shit at all. Grief is the trickiest emotion of them all and you know nothing until you've felt it. You never learn that lesson until someone dies. But, it's...